How to Play

Object of game 

For the player to charm their way home in the least number of turns.

Set up

If you would like to play for free: 'Play Online' 'Play for Free'.

If you've registered your licence code: 'Play Online'  2.enter your email address and password 'Login and play'. 

Options - This button allows you to: 1. choose your player-colour  2. choose your screen-name  3. turn music on/off. 


For the first turn, a question-category is chosen at random. The player must then choose the response that best fits how they would honestly react in that given situation.

The 6 coloured cirlces on the board=the 6 question-categories. These are:

Red=Gesture    Yellow=Praise    Green=Sensitivity    Orange=Empathy    Dark Blue=Humour    Light Blue=Humility      

View Explanations

Each question has an explanation of how well your chosen response suits the particular situation. To improve your life skills and gain ‘charisma’, you should always try to act in the most appropriate manner; however for most of us this is often not the case!!
Each time a player answers a question, they are given a score: 0, 1 or 2. A score of 2 represents the best way to respond in that given situation. 1 is a partially acceptable response. 0 is not an appropriate way to respond. The player then moves forward the number of spaces on the board in accordance to their score from that go.
On their next turn, the player must answer a question which is dictated by whatever colour square on the board they are currently on.   

There are also 2 other types of squares on the board:
Gamble squares: when a player lands on this square, they must answer a question from the gamble pack. Gamble questions only have 2 possible answers, one will move you forward and the other will move you back!!
Miss a go: when a player lands on this square they must miss a go.
This play continues until the player has charmed their way through all of the life skill stages on the board and reached the home square at the end. The number of turns taken to reach the home square is then used to determine the level achieved. This level is only displayed in the licenced version. There are 6 levels. Level 1 is the highest level. The levels are:

1.The Problem-Solver      2.The Negotiator      3.The Healer       4.The Friend     5.The Blagger      6.The Bully

Each life stage has a corresponding explanation at the end of the game and you should read the appropriate life stage card to discover how well you handle all of life’s situations!! You can then aim to improve this next time you play!!

In the licensed version, all current online friends are displayed on the game board and messages can be sent by clicking on the character piece. New friends can also be added from within the game and if they are not already registered an email will be sent to the individual to explain how to purchase a licence and register.

Explanation of Question Types


Gesture is one of the first things you use in a relationship. Relationships often begin with a gesture (e.g. smile, handshake, laugh etc.).

Open gesture is important in maintaining good relationship (e.g. open hands/arms).

As a general rule, ‘crossing things’ (e.g. arms, legs etc.) gives off negative vibes and affects the mood of the other person.


Humour is one of the key elements in relationships—the ability to laugh at the world and yourself. Humour improves your mood and the mood of others.

Humour has a ‘levelling’ influence in relationships, quickly putting people at ease and establishing a positive, safe environment where each person is equally valued.

Some things to try:

Smile as you arrive in the morning

Smile, keeping eye-contact, as you walk past people

See the funny side of things—it helps you to deal with life much better and reduces stress

When you smile, or make someone else smile, you charm them and make them happy


Praise is the ability to value someone and not feel this devalues you.

Praise validates people and builds their self-esteem.

Praise helps to maintain a person’s confidence and, if used enough, gives people the courage to overcome obstacles.

Praise small things and big things.

Why…?This helps to build a relationship with people—those you know well and those you don’t. When commenting on things, try to focus on praise.

Why…?Because negative feedback damages confidence and creates a fear of making mistakes.


Empathy is the ability to understand how someone else feels about a situation. This is a very powerful relationship-skill because it helps you to work out peoples’ moods and reactions to things.

Empathy is the ability to take yourself out of the equation when you’re trying to understand someone else’s behaviour/mood.

By putting your feelings to one side, you allow the other person’s feelings ‘in’. At this point, you begin to understand their feelings/needs better.

When you’re frustrated or angry with someone, put your needs and feelings down and stand where they’re standing. Why…? Because empathy is the ability to look down on a situation and ‘see’ and ‘feel’ what the other person is feeling.

If you fall out with someone, look at yourself first. Why…? Because looking at yourself is what the other person is doing—they’re looking and responding to you. ‘See’ what they see to feel their anger/hurt.


Humility is realising you are equal to everyone else. This is a particularly powerful skill because it means you recognise and value all people.

Humility is the ability to say ‘sorry’, particularly when you ‘know you’re right’ and ‘didn’t do anything wrong’.

Humility is having the emotional intelligence to realise that peace is more important than power.

If you’ve annoyed someone, apologise Why…? This reinforces you value them and removes any shared anxiety=peace.

If you’re the one with the power, give others a feeling of power.

Why…? Because power is only good if it’s used to build others.

  “All rivers and streams meet at the ocean—at the same level.”



Sensitivity is the ability to read other people’s moods/feelings.

Sensitivity is being able to adapt what you say based on the other person’s moods/feelings. 

Sensitivity is having the emotional intelligence to ‘pick up on’another person’s needs. E.g. You ‘pick up’ that a friend feels undervalued so you praise them to show them that they’re valued.

Watch/study people before you speak or act. Why…? Because studying someone helps you to work-out the responses they need from you.

Study people’s eyes (red/glazed over=low). And…? Say hello and smile if people look low (whoever they are).

Watch people’s posture. Why…? The more stooped they are, the weaker they feel. So…?  Praise them. Praise=power!

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